Playing the blame game never does anybody any
good. The nation is constantly trying to fight against all odds, become a
better place to live in and yet reaching nowhere. And that’s probably because
there’s a conflict going on within that’s pulling us back more than it is
propelling us forward. Men and women seem to be at war with each other and that
just makes every effort worthless. Many prominent personalities always tried to make men understand
the plight of women in this country and why they should be equally supportive
of women’s rights and it is only fair that this time we look at the other side.
Turns out, men have their own reasons (however much legitimate or foolish they
may seem to others) for not being able to trust women anymore, let alone
understanding them!!! I'm not trying to stereotype every woman in the world or
paint them all with the same brush, just being honest in giving the women out
there a piece of our minds, with all due respect! Read on as I try and decode
exactly why men have lost complete trust in the other gender.
1. Men, especially those who have been in relationships,
swear by the fact that there is no way to gauge what goes on inside a woman’s
mind. They don’t say what they mean and don’t mean what they say. You can never
know what they really want. Understanding a woman is one thing a lot of men
have just given up on! Yes, it is a stereotype but well, looks like there’s a reason why some stereotypes exist.
2. Another reason why men have so many grudges against women
is because every guy at some point in his life has gotten FRIENDZONED . We men
think it is rather insensitive of women to knowingly mislead guys into
believing they’re interested when they’re really not. And the world knows
it—once in the Friendzone, always in the Friendzone. It only makes those women
look insensitive and selfish. The worst part is, they don’t even seem to
acknowledge that they do deliberately mislead us as per their own
convenience.
3. Today, women have all the sympathy in the world. No denying that we need to make this Country a better place for our women but not at the cost of ourselves being neglected in the process. Women don’t necessarily deserve sympathy for everything. We’re moving towards a direction where women are getting leverages at the cost of us. It disappoints to see how the world is getting biased towards them every day while our problems are not even considered genuine. Do you ever see people talking about crimes against men?Think about it because even this became worse in the educational field.
4. The laws are horribly biased towards women. DOWRY is a criminal offence but demanding ALIMONY is not. If a woman files a molestation case against a man, it is instantly assumed that he’s guilty. As a matter of fact , always a women's enemy is a women because in the cases of dowry the mother -in -law starts quenching the bridegroom for dowry. So the mother -in-law gives a kickstart and then the other's join. Saddest part is that only the men get blamed all the time.
5. The nation is much more informed now and according to every recent survey and study, most rape and dowry cases filed by women are false. Now, we also know a lot of genuine cases go unreported and in no way are we trying to dilute the gravity of crimes against women in the country but let’s face it, a lot of women do misuse laws against men just because they can. And as unfortunate as it is, this has created a huge gap of mistrust between men and women. It is understandable why men constantly feel insecure and afraid of falling prey to such women.
6. We men totally support women fighting back and protesting against crimes, we really do. But what we often get in return is a tag of being ‘potential rapists’. A ride in the public transport is in- complete for men without hostile glances from female passengers. We’re constantly judged and looked at as if we’re trying to molest them. We’re stereotyped at every point. All men are not rapists but women just don’t seem to get it.
7. Most men have also had enough of hypocrisy. It has become a fad to
rant about how women are objectified all their lives by men, conveniently
ignoring how an Indian man is insensitively reduced to his family wealth, bank
balance and the company he works in. We know women have it difficult in India
but men don’t have it easy either and it wouldn’t hurt if women could just acknowledge and understand it.
8. Most women who call themselves feminists have a very
warped idea of the movement.They either want superiority of women over men in
the name of feminism or just switch sides as per their convenience. They want
equal pay, equal rights, equal opportunities,respect, freedom (which we men totally support) but also want the reserved Ladies seat in the Delhi metro.
They still expect men to pay the bill on dates, still want their chairs to be pulled and still want to be able to play the ‘woman card’ to have it easy. It
just looks like women today want to lead an easy life at the cost of men. It is
definitely not equality that they want and it’s quite evident to the other
gender.
9. We men are not against feminism as we are against the way women
are going about it, to be honest. Feminism is about giving women equal rights.
It has nothing to do with hating men. But sadly, that’s exactly what feminism
has come to be – misandry. It looks like they’re fighting against men instead
of fighting against patriarchy, along with men. Their attitude has become
rather spiteful in the recent times. While men are constantly trying to lend
support and make women feel safe, they’re being made to feel like they are the problem.
10. Men are largely misunderstood, no matter what they do. A
casual internet joke on women is enough to stir up a storm. Thanks to the
sudden wave of feminism, a guy cannot even voice his preferences in women
openly with the fear of being slammed for‘objectifying’ women or being labeled
as a douchebag. It is perfectly fine for girls to prefer ‘tall, dark, handsome
men’ but the moment a guy says he finds skinny girls hotter, all hell breaks
loose!!!
CONCLUSION:
And now that I've said all that I wanted to say. I wouldn’t stay far behind in acknowledging that there are always two
sides to a story. I know women, too, might have a lot to say about this. But i'm just trying to bridge the gap between the two genders and if one of you women reading
this wants to step up and say something, i'm all ears. Let’s put an end to
this gender war. If you know how to make things better, the comment box is all
yours !!!
This is just written from an inspired source for the acknowledgement of the readers , but not to hurt anyone and i'm not liable for any legalities.
-Bhaskar
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